If everyone understands it’s too basic and deserves to be shelved.
If everyone doesn’t understand, that means you did something right.
Let’s Get Into It
Stop being boring
So, many people think boring is okay because that’s what they’re used to. Don’t be boring!
Live life in color, try new things, visit new places, and don’t go the same way to work some days. Never stop trying new things and don’t be afraid to be different because boring is wack and we need more color in this society.
Never play it safe unless it’s a legal matter
Uh, please don’t commit crimes or go to jail.
Be mindful, I am most likely talking about fashion, executing ideas, and showing up as your highest self.
Don’t play it safe, stay safe, but stop living in fear that if you step outside your comfort zone, something negative will happen or people won’t understand you.
I truly believe some of my favorite fashion looks, events, and fun came from me just doing something new and not feeling constrained.
Embracing you is not cheap
It’s not.
Being yourself unapologetic is not cheap. For the last few years, I’ve seen myself showing up unapologetically, showing up in my style, natural fro, and have experienced mixed reviews. Fan theories.
Throughout the journey, the biggest thing I’ve learned is not to stop. I keep some elements to myself and with the folks who adore me.
Not everyone needs a moment to dissect or even be around me because they’re not supposed to be. I know they’re not because of how they try to comprehend me.
If you don’t get me, then you’re not meant to. I can’t stop what I am doing to explain to you, “This is me, and this is my why”. No. This isn’t 6:23 Detroit Shop.
Embracing you is not cheap, but it’s more expensive to keep explaining yourself. Stop, let them folks think whatever.
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Stop being digestible to people who don’t listen
I know, sounds crazy, but let those people think whatever.
If you don’t want to go to that party, text that person or show up on social media – don’t.
Being digestible is easy; it’s people-pleasing. Always making sure someone can understand or hear you. Nope.
Stop overexplaining yourself to people who don’t need to know where you’re coming from, because if they wanted to be a part of your life, they heard you the first time.
Stop waiting for approval
Stop.
Stop waiting for those friends to hear you and love you, stop waiting for family to “get you”; they don’t have to. For everyone who doesn’t get it, there will be at least five others who will.
Over time, you will learn who is for you and who is not. Over time, you will open your life to who belongs and who doesn’t.
I believe the biggest key is to do you and not feel sorry about it. That doesn’t mean harm, take advantage of, or use others in the process. You can do you and still have respect, honor, and kindness to others; that’s how you truly tap into your best self.
Someone who can choose themselves but also know when it’s time to help others, use their skills to encourage and provide guidance.
It’s okay to accept guidance and help.
Just don’t always wait for others to be your source; sometimes, to truly see impact, you have to be the warrior.
As long as you like it, enjoy it
It’s as simple as that. If it brings you pure joy, peace, and harmony, not some fictitious made-up reality you created – go for it.
Always choose your peace and allow God to speak through you. When you’re showing up who God has created you to be, the rest is already written.
Let’s Talk About It
Are you truly embracing yourself and showing up as your highest being?