Pretty freaking cool by. C.Alilijah

Embodying the spirit of not only looking and dressing well but also behaving well.

I’ve decided to bury my RBF and let my smile shine like it’s supposed to.

Let’s Get Into It

Smile more

I smile at people, babies, and dogs, but I truly believe that I need to start smiling more. Walk around with a pleasant disposition instead of only smiling in uncomfortable situations or when I am just being nice because I have no choice.

Especially if you know your smile is beautiful. Show it off, don’t pout, show it off.

Give kindness even when it’s free

Society says we should only be nice when it’s something beneficial for us, but I challenge that.

I am truly learning that there is nothing wrong with being nice, regardless of what I get out of the deal, because life is already hard enough.

It’s okay to hold the door, it’s okay to add a little bit more razzle dazzle in conversations with strangers, you never know the blessing that conversation or boost you gave someone just by being calm, just being nice.

Have honey for the bees

Working in retail always shows me that not everyone carries the same energy as you do. Which is fine, but it also means you have to protect your energy.

Still give out kindness even when you are faced with “itchyness,” if you catch my drift, because their attitude to you shouldn’t become a reflection of you. Meaning don’t give attitude back because that’s cheap, give peace and positivity, and make them look just like what they are, a fool. And a fool isn’t being used to be derogatory; it’s an adjective describing what they are.

And a lot of times, people are battling their own life, and when you show up unapologetically, beautiful. unique and intelligent, that’s a combo, they don’t understand or desire for themselves. So, it hurts when they see you showing up in the element that they wish they could.

Smile at them and move on because you lose nothing in those situations, conversations, unless you feed into their dilemma.

pROTECT YOUR PEace at all times

You have to.

Your peace is priceless, and nowadays you have to add to and contribute to it. Don’t ruin your peace to benefit others.

How do I protect my peace?

It truly starts with identifying what brings you peace, joy, and calmness.

That’s how I do it.

If it doesn’t align with my spirit, then it’s not for me. If it disrupts my spirit, then it’s not for me.

That’s a personal journey not defined by just one element; you have to decide what peace looks like for you.

However, I can say that God is a good resource that points you in the direction of peace.

It takes time

Don’t rush the process, but at least start with the idea of, “I am going to have a good day,” and define what that looks like.

It can look like waking up early with affirmations, wearing what you enjoy, that new handbag, or driving along to a curated playlist.

Whatever you do, keep a smile on your face, give out compliments, expect none in return, but carry yourself daily in good gratitude, grace, and peace.