Let’s set the scene.
It’s a Friday, I love Fridays. Well, yeah, let’s do a Friday.
Where are we going
By now, I know you have listened to my rants on why I hate dinner dates for the first time. Or how there are no good movies out right now, but I do enjoy pretzels and cheese as my go-to order.
A slushie if I feel like splurging. Maybe even a tiny candy stash in my purse if I’m feeling risky.
Or maybe bowling, if I remember to wear the right attire and not a mini skirt with platforms.
I do like surprises, and a picnic is always something I am down for, but the weather hasn’t broken yet in Michigan, and the ground would be too cold, wet, and a complete disaster.
A nice chat over coffee, followed up with a trip to the museum or even the library, may work.
But that’s a lot of talking. How about we do something fun?
Maybe go-kart racing or laser tag, let’s have one of those cheesy romcom dates as they do in a coming-of-age story.
I know it’s going to be nice, though, because you’re listening. You’re taking note.
What am I wearing
Normally, on dates, I overdress.
Can’t have you thinking I don’t know style.
Something leopard, something denim, and a cute baguette bag to match. OH, and I can’t forget my platforms!
Actually, no denim, something chic, of course. Maybe a dress, if I want to show off my curves, but it may be too soon for you to see me that fine. You deserve a nice fit by Chan, but I may throw on my Cluless garb instead, an oversized blazer, mini skirt, knee boots with a chain belt.
I’ll let the outfit be a surprise.
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Right now, I’m focusing heavily on growing my natural hair back, so you’re most likely going to get curly hair, Chan!
Don’t be scared of the fro.
Who’s driving
I’ll meet you there. If I like you after the first date, you can pick me up on the next.
Being completely honest, I think it’s safer and makes more sense to come together separately on the first date. I feel that way because I can leave if you’re crazy or if I am uncomfortable without feeling obligated to stay.
Be careful always.
Is my “program” strict
Okay, I do have a few more rules, like.. hmm, guidelines. I like guidelines better. We have to have a few initial phone or FaceTime conversations before I agree to go out.
I know that’s so “dramatic,” but I have to make sure we have something in common before I use my gas. Literally.
Gas ain’t cheap.
So, let’s hop on that call, get to know each other a bit, have something to laugh about, and finish conversing in person.
Other guidelines
- Don’t be late. If we agree on 4:15 p.m., I expect you to be there at 4:15 p.m. I understand things happen, but being late is rude, and I probably will leave. You’re already playing with my time.
- Don’t try to kiss me. I will get turned off. I just met you. Try to set the scene at least.
- Avoid smelling like marijuana or alcohol. Let’s be serious here.
- Have an actual plan and a backup. I don’t have time to be looking crazy. My time is precious.
- Don’t rush the date. Especially if we’re having a good time, be honest and know who you’re dealing with.
- If you’re weird in person, don’t schedule a date.
Let’s get to know each other and have fun
I truly want to enjoy our first date. I want us to have a nice time, get to know each other without it feeling too quiet, weird, or rushed.
I can’t lie and say I am a super social butterfly, don’t get me wrong, I have my shy and awkward moments too. However, at my age now, I know a little bit more about dating and how I want to show up and how I want a good date to go.
To me, it’s about taking your time, getting to know someone, and building gradually off conversations, laughing, creating jokes together, making memories, and creating a beautiful bond.
I am a groovy woman
I don’t say I am a simple woman, because I am not. I am not complicated either.
A Saturday night consists of me doing craft pop-ups or eating charcuterie boards with my mom. Summer nights may include fashion shows or being outside with my family listening to oldies but goodies and enjoying the breeze and the smell of BBQ.
At 25, I allow myself to dabble in avenues, “side quests” that bring me joy, happiness, peace, and completeness as a woman. I choose peace every single day.
If you don’t crave peace in your life, we’re not meant to connect. Simple as that.
To be with a woman like me, you have to understand yourself.
With love,
C.Alilijah