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If I like you after the first date, you can pick me up on the next.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Being completely honest, I think it&#8217;s safer and makes more sense to come together separately on the first date. I feel that way because I can leave if you&#8217;re crazy or if I am uncomfortable without feeling obligated to stay. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Be careful always.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Is my &#8220;program&#8221; strict<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Okay, I do have a few more rules, like.. hmm, guidelines. I like guidelines better. We have to have a few initial phone or FaceTime conversations before I agree to go out. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I know that&#8217;s so &#8220;dramatic,&#8221; but I have to make sure we have something in common before I use my gas. 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